"Couple Time"

"Couple Time"

During the honeymoon periods, many enjoyed their couple time together. Just two of you, no one else. Able to go anywhere anytime, even if it's late at night.
But what about after having a child? Everything changes. Your couple time gets lesser, and perhaps for the sensitive kind, you will even get jealous sometimes that your husband actually cares for your kid more than he cares for you. These are the changes.

Late night supper or just a movie can be really difficult if there's no one to take care of your kid for a short while. And you cannot do it as often as you wish. How about during the weekends when you finally can enjoy that short few days when your husband is not working? You used to be able to enjoy movie dates, dinner dates. Just the two of you, but no more. Your weekend will be revolved around with family, kid. But it's not really that bad as what you think. Because, there's still time for everything.
Here comes the key point, TIME MANAGEMENT.

Time management is very important during this period of time when you are still trying to adapt the changes because you should never let your emotions affect your mind. Once you feel frustrated that everything cocked up, you will then let your emotion get in control. Arguments over time, kid, family, and more start occurring. And your husband gets frustrated as well. Sooooooooo, during the weekdays when your husband is working, what you can do is actually slowly plan what to do during the weekends and also let your husband knows that he doesn't need to worry about the plans during his rest day because you already done your part by making sure everything is in place be it at home, or even if there's a gathering.





Next, HANDLING YOUR EMOTIONS.
Handling your emotions is the second key to a happy marriage. You have to start learning how to handle the stress of the family, and as your kid grows. There are many challenges you will face during this stage because as you spend more time with your kid, you will actually start learning how to be a mother and FOR FIRST TIMERS, it's definitely not easy to adapt.
Till now, I have difficulties handling my own emotions too. I get too overly-attached to my husband
that I find it quite disturbing at times. I'm the kind of girl that gets jealous very very easily which makes you understand the situation a little bit more.
But the good point is, he does understands that I'm the kind of jealousy wife and thus he doesn't get offended if I go crazy over small issues but sometimes he still can't take it.
Well, maybe pregnancy really change me alot. Because when I was much better before I got pregnant.

Being able to cope with the changes is very important because you can never afford to let yourself drown in depression.
You can always talk things out with your partner and not just bottle everything up to yourself and one day you just explode it all out but by then it could probably be too late due to all the emtional break downs inside you that you have been hiding away from everyone.

On the next topic, I will talk more on depression.
Which I have been reading about it ever since I got pregnant due to the huge change in my emotions. And also talk about some ways you can prevent yourself from it. 

That's all for today,
good luck young mummies x.