You wonder why some of us complain so much about our relationship yet we still choose to stay in it after how we complained?

Because if you really love someone, it's not easy to just let it go.

You will always find that 1 reason to stay with them even if you have millions of reasons just to leave them. But have they ever thought how much you've put in just to make sure everything goes well? Yes for some, No for most. Alright before I start saying anything, it's just my personal poiut of view.

Well, both parties might feel the same well.

I personally feel that being in a relationship takes two hands to clap. You can never get into one with just one person loving the other. Now, did anyone point a gun at your head and force you to be with the guy/girl you're with now? 

NO.

Reasons why we all get together at first is because of the sweet perod we all get during the start of a relationship. Called the 'honeymoon period'. But everything starts changing after awhile. You're so madly in love at first that you will do anything for that person but why get bored of it when you chose to be so sweet at first? How did the first argument came about? Do you remember? Well, I don't. It can be just flirting with another girl, or just to because he/she changed. What I actually mean by 'changing'?

I don't mean he have to break off with you to feel that he/she changed.

It's just they act. They start losing interest in you, not wanting to see you so often anymore, not willing to do anything for you, not willing to listen to what you have to say, start yelling back, start saying tha you're irritating and etc. You start to feel if you're with the right person or not, start wondering where did the old him/her went to. Honestly, that's their true colours after you really got to know them. And guess what? There's more to come. 

The longer you're with someone, the more comfortable they get. They start showing you how they really are and you might even get shock that you didn't know that you've been dating someone like this. Have you ever wonder how it's like to be facing that person for the rest of your life? They might get tired of trying to hold you back during arguments because after a long period of time it's not easy to let go of the relationship. And when it comes to the point whereby only one party is making the effort to just to hold on while the other just take it for granted, THIS RELATIONSHIP WILL NEVER WORK OUT.

Don't take it as if she's naggy, she's irritating, she's controlling your life.

Because you'll never know how much she actually care for you, how much she've put in just to make you happy, how badly she tries to make everything work even if she have to put on a fake smile to just make sure everything's okay when deep down she's really upset about it. Same goes to guys. Not all guys in a relationship plays the bad role. Some of them can be really nice, really faithful yet always getting hurt over and over again. Not all guys are jerks ok.

The more you care, the more you have to lose. - Harry Potter

Heard of this before? Indeed it's 100% true.

The one that care more often feels more upset about the changes, about what's going on everyday, take note of the slightest change in the relationship, and becomes the 'naggy' one. But hold on, is caring even wrong?

NO.

Firstly, we humans don't actually appreciate what we really have till we actually lose it and we start regretting. WHAT'S THE POINT ?!?!?!

The one that often cares more actually appreciates more because he/she really take note every little tiny details about their partner. When the person actually cares for you (too much), you start feeling as if you'll never lose them, you can take them for granted, you feel as though they're always nagging at you, irritating you.

And when they stop bothering because they are sick and tired of being the one holding on, you start saying 'You've changed', you start feeling as if they found someone better, you start feeling the emptiness and start wanting their attention again.

What is wrong with us?!

We never actually cherish what we have and we just complain our life away. But after reading what I've mention, are you one of the many that's feeling this way? If yes, start doing something to your relationship before everything goes haywire.

By doing something doesn't mean asking you to break off or whatever negative bullshit. I'm not a relationship breaker. I'm advising you on whether you're with the right person or not.

Think about your future with your partner, and if you really love this person, why not give it a shot and try to make things work instead of always arguing and not finding time to sit down and start having 'heart-to-heart-talk' sessions with each other? It's not that difficult to just have a talk and know how each other is feeling.

There's no such thing as high ego/pride in love. You give and take.

Don't be a fool and lose someone you love just because you wanna keep your pride, you don't wanna lose 'face'. And when you really lose that one that will stay with you throughout thick and thins, you'll regret. Because nothing can be rewind, no one comes back after they get too tired of everything. Do something about it now!!!

Well, some of you might face a partner that doesn't actually listens to what you really have to say and you actually gives up trying. You no longer nag, no longer tries to make things work. You just wanna go with the flow and see how things will end up in the end.

Maybe you're spending too much time with him/her, maybe you're too dependent of that person, maybe he/she is just not used to having someone that clingy.

Find something you like doing, get yourself busy with things you love to do if you're not working due to pregnancy or any reasons.

Those who are able to work, find a job that suits you, start making a change in your life, start filling up your schedule with work and spend some time with your friends and family. Perhaps you'll feel a whole lot better and things might even slowly work out in your relationship.

It's not easy, but if you don't try you'll end up just living a pointless life being upset every single day. Do something while you can, while you have the freedom to do so. Those with kids, spend time with your kids, care for them, bring them out for coffee with your friends nearby. Take time out for a break.

You need not go drinking at night if you can't. You can always chill at home if you're restricted. Buy some good wine, enjoy it at home after work.

Because if your partner doesn't understands you, at least understand yourself. Love yourself more, because you know what you actually deserve.

Goodluck.

xoxo