FREEDOM.

What's freedom?

1. The power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants.

2. The state of not being imprisoned or enslaved.

Everyone has their own freedom, you can never control someone and take away their freedom.

But many make the mistake of taking away their partner's freedom because they got too attached to them.

What's the reason behind all the being overly attached ?

When you start controlling someone, they will not have any other plans and all they want to do is be with you. And by being together too often, people get 'tired' sometimes because they realise they spend too much time together and start to want their own personal space.

That's when things change...

When your partner wants personal space and when your partner starts to spend lesser time with you, you start to think very negatively. You start to have thoughts like 'Is he losing interest in me?', 'Is he seeing someone else?' etc. And that will then lead to several disagreements between the both of you which is definitely not healthy in a relationship. He starts to think that you're naggy (auntie), he starts to feel as if you care too much and this is a major turn off sometimes. Many of us hates to be controlled or maybe ALL of us. But because we love too much to actually not being able to stop caring.

As girls, we're often too emotional and we can cry over very little things. Think back, before you got too attached together, you didn't really spend all your time thinking about him right? And that's when you both have lesser disagreements because you still miss each other as there's an absence between the both of you. And being overly attached happens more often in marriages as you face each other everyday and there's no point saying you miss each other anymore right?

How do you bring back those happy moments?

You miss those moments don't you? You miss being happy together, receiving sweet messages from your partner saying that they miss you, etc.

So how do you stop being overly attached?

It's gonna be very tough but it's gonna be worth it.

CARE.

You have to stop caring so much because always note that a guy will tell you how they feel when they actually feel comfortable around you rather than giving them a feeling as if you're their nanny. 

TIME-MANAGEMENT.

You have to start finding things to keep your mind busy instead of focusing so much on your partner, like finding a job. Having a job keeps you away from spending too much time together and spending too much time nagging away or even thinking about your partner. You won't be staring at your phone 24/7 waiting for their texts or calls because you have things to do.

Learn to let go.

Let go in a way whereby stop being so clingy or perhaps stop controlling. Your partner needs their space to breathe, they need to have time to do something they like. And by letting go, you make them feel as though you understand them. It's a plus point !! Learn to be understanding, learn to compromise, learn to have personal space between each other. And that's when your partner starts missing you again because they start to feel your absence like how they did when you were dating back then. Or during your honeymoon period. 

Honestly, I'm someone that hates to be controlled.

No one likes to be controlled, they will end up getting so tired and start letting go of the relationship because they can't breathe.

Another tip that I find it really important whether you're married or not.

DOLLING UP.

Never ever stop dolling up!!!!

Always dress up because it's gonna do your partner proud when you're out together. It's not about pride or whatever bullshit but just being presentable and being pretty. Everyone loves to get compliments from others saying 'wow you look gorgeous' instead of not even looking at you right?!?! Stay in the market!!! Not selling yourself or asking you to go around flirting but being presentable is very important. You have to keep a good image. Do your partner proud.

I can never leave home without dolling up because I feel very insecure without looking nice. Even when I'm pregnant now, I still find ways to at least make my face look presentable even though I don't have nice maternity clothings because I don't find a need to buy as I'm gonna due in around 2 weeks time and most of my oversize clothings fit me well till now and it starts to get a little tighter due to my water retention but my pullovers are still fitting well.

Having basic make up on like foundation, drawing your eyebrow and a little bit of blusher can be presentable too. You need not have very heavy make up to look nice. You just have to make sure you look fresh instead of the I just woke up kinda look.

HAIR-DO

Having a nice hairstyle is important too! Something that fits your perfectly with a brown colored hairs will definitely look great and it suits many occasions as well. Be it formal occasions or informal occasions. Brown will never go wrong ~~

It's not easy to adapt to changes in life but if you don't learn to adapt, you'll always be unhappy over the things happening around you. You have to always look on the brighter side, no matter how negative you are towards your life now. You can always talk to your partmer about how you're feeling but if they're not your listening ear you can always talk to your best friend. I believe you have someone that will always be there for you even if the sky falls.

You need not always force your partner to sit down and chit chat with you on how you feel or how they feel if they're not those type of person. You can change a way of letting them know by texting them a message? They read and have time to slowly understand the context instead of disagreeing straight away right? Some of them just need time to slowly understand how someone else feel inside them and things will then get better. Communication is very important between couples because once there's a communication break down nothing can ever work out anymore. One party will be suffering by giving in all the time and one party will take it for granted. Thus leading to separation.

Love is all about compromising, patience, communications.

You don't have to force yourself to do things you don't wish to do.

Love isn't forcing someone to do things your way, but love is a never ending lesson teaching us how to communicate with each other, how to care for each other, how to be patient with each other and never take each other's love for granted.

There's too many to learn, you just have to go through everything step by step yourself.

It's all about experiencing different kinds of obstacles and learning how to adapt to all the changes and make it a good one instead of a bad one.

If you really love someone, you'll never give up on them.

Because if they love you as much as you do, they'll make sure you get the best and never let you down.

Disagreements happen all the time, but as long as everyone learn from it, there shouldn't be any problems. But remember, it's about compromising. Don't ever take things too hard on yourself, you might give up someday when you're too tired.

Be happy.